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< Translator’s note: The original formatting of the stories has been preserved. The translations aim to remain as close as possible to each author's original wording and expression.

It wasn't rape. But it was violence.

We'd known each other for less than a month. One evening, we were at his place watching a Japanese animated film.

He kept placing his hand on me. I kept removing it. He tried to kiss me several times. I kept turning away. He kept pushing his hands toward my groin. I nervously tried to remove his hands.

Throughout the entire viewing, I planned every step of how to leave his apartment as quickly as possible. Throughout the entire film, I worried that he might become more insistent. Throughout the entire film, I was afraid he might do something worse to me.

When the film ended, he took my hands in his and leaned over me. I grew even more frightened. He kissed me, and I responded. Afterward, I tried to pull back. He wouldn't let go.

I said: "It's time. I need to go." He: "Stay." Me: "I really need to go." He: "Oh, stay." Me: "I really need to go. Do you hear me?" He kept holding me and kissing me. Those few minutes turned into hours. I was scared. I pulled myself together. I started pulling my hands free. I spoke louder and more firmly.

"Let go."

He reluctantly let me go. I started gathering my things quickly. It might seem like a small thing. So he didn't let go. So he likes you. But I don't like him. I don't like being deprived of my freedom. I don't like having the boundaries of my body violated. I don't like being heard. I don't like this.

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Anonymous author; story told in 2019 as part of the "16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence" campaign

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Гаряча лінія з питань протидії торгівлі людьми, запобігання та протидії домашньому насильству, насильству за однакової статі та насильству стосовно дітей

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